MORE, MORE, MORE! Hot romps with sex-on-legs housemate always leaves me wanting more

I want a relationship but she keeps going cold on me.

I moved into a house with my best mate when we both found jobs in the city near us and we advertised for two others to share.

We are both 23 and we had in mind two other men but two girls applied.

They could afford it and seemed all right, so they moved in.

One of the girls was really hot and I fancied her straight away. She is 22 and single. We all work as baristas.

One Friday evening I was alone at home when the girl I fancy came in.

She had been out for a drink with workmates but wasn’t drunk.

We chatted for a while and there was a real spark.

We ended up sitting on the settee together cuddled up. I kissed her and she kissed me back.

We then seemed to agree what was going to happen next without even saying anything and went to my room.

The sex was fantastic but she was distant with me the next day.

She told me that the sex meant nothing and then refused to say any more.

We have had sex at least six times since.

Sometimes she is ­distant afterwards and sometimes really sweet.

She has said some truly hurtful things to me but also some truly nice things.

We had a heart-to-heart one night after a hurtful incident and we both ended up crying.

I told her the things she said were so painful because I love her.

She said she didn’t feel the same and the sex had to stop.

This lasted two weeks but the huge sexual tension brewed up and we had sex again.

Then the next day she behaved like I had the plague.

Her mate advised me to take a step back, because you do not know what you have got until it is gone.

He said that would help her to realise a few things.

I still sometimes think I am just being an idiot.

DEIDRE SAYS: This girl doesn’t want you when she’s got you, then wants you when she hasn’t got you.

She pushes you away and then reels you back in.

Her problem is that she finds true intimacy difficult to sustain.

This often stems from an unloving childhood.

But unless she works out why she behaves like this and can change, any relationship with her will always be an emotional rollercoaster.

Tell her you love her and want commitment from her without the repeated rejections.

Suggest she read The Feel The Fear Guide To Lasting Love by Susan Jeffers which will probably ring some bells for her.

If she’s not willing even to consider her role in the ups and downs, then you’d best look further afield, even if it means moving out of the flat so you can stop being distracted by her.